It was my birthday a couple of weeks ago and it got me thinking. What have I learned over the past 36 years? What makes me, me? What is important to me? I have learned so much on this journey called life. I am shaped by my friends and family but mostly from my own thoughts and decisions. I have a long way to go but I also know that I have come a long way over the years. I have to say that the 30’s are pretty cool!
This is what I came up with.
~Every now and then it is good to stop and look at how children see the world. Remember how it was to be a child and look at life with a sense of wonder and adventure without any jaded opinions?
~I am not perfect nor am I vain enough to think that I am even close to perfect. I make mistakes. I stumble. I fall. Some days I am a big bundle of mess. I am darkness and I am light. We are beautiful souls despite our faults. We are as unique as the snowflakes that fall from the sky.
~We cannot buy happiness. We’ve heard it a million times. It is not found in a box, on a shelf, online or in a store. Stuff will never fill that void. In fact it will make us feel more empty. True story.
~I have a low tolerance for excuses, for myself and for others. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. Figure out what is a priority to you and what makes you happy. We can make time for the things that we really want. (AND we do not need to do everything all at once.)
~Appreciate life with all its quirks and blessings. It all happens for a reason. If you don’t stop and enjoy it then at the end what was the point? Just when you think that you are getting the hang of it those damn gray hairs start poking up in your head. With all stages there are positive and negative. No point focusing on the bad.
~Practice gratitude. It is one of the best ways to find contentment. Humans are often discontent. We want what we don’t have. When we stop and remember all that we do have then suddenly our way of thinking turns around. Things like health and relationships all mean so much more than material things.
~We are taught to conform. Media is prevalent in our world. It is everywhere that we turn and we follow what we are ‘supposed to’. Go ahead and question people. Research all that you can. You may just be surprised at what you find out.
~You can’t keep up with everything and that is ok. We get caught up with trying to stay up to date with everything, experience everything, and not miss out that we forget that we cannot do or have it all. Enjoy the part of life that you can savor; that slice that is meant just for you!
~Sometimes you just have to lighten up. Throw caution to the wind. Be silly. Dance in your living room. Sing at the top of your lungs. Laugh really loud. I can’t imagine that anyone has regretted any of these things.
~Marriage/relationships are work. So if you are not ready to work at it don’t bother.
~Love YOU. The most important thing that you can do is love yourself. If you are always searching for a better this or that then you miss out on your great self as it is. COME ON women we all are beautiful in some way. Embrace that and teach your girls that it is ok to love yourself as you are, right now!
~To me the most important qualities of a mate are honesty, trust, and a sense of humor; without those things it will be a long road ahead.
~Always date your partner. Never stop. Dates are so very important to keep the fun, the love and the fire burning. Remember why you fell in love in the first place. I love to try new things with the hubs. Take some time daily, weekly, or at least monthly to enjoy each other’s company. You won’t regret it!
~Stop and take the time to show others that you care. Love isn’t always enough – actions are another way to show and say thanks or proclaim love.
~Learn what your love language is. Seriously. Once you know these things you and your partner can become more fulfilled. You will have that ah-ha moment. www.5lovelanguages.com
~Life is short. Don’t waste time worrying about what other people think. I am not sure at what age this happens but there is a time in your life when your don’t give a damn switch is turned on and you really start living your life how YOU want to.
~I used to be the sheep. I would follow what everyone else was doing because I thought that was what I was supposed to do not to mention I was a people pleaser. All that did was make me overwhelmed and unhappy. Now I am ok to create my own unique path.
~Not everything is intentional. I used to get so disappointed with people thinking that they would intentionally hurt me. Now I know that we just all think and do things differently. Their actions were not always for the purpose of intentionally being hurtful. It is ok to let people go. Everyone comes into our life for a reason. Remember the good times and as Shawna says send light and love.
~Stop with the comparison game. This can be a toughie. I have some very inspirational friends that I look up to and admire. I also know that we all have our shit to contend with. Lift each other up instead of cutting each other down.
~Be yourself. Always. Seriously. Though you may want to fit in with everyone it is much more fun to be you. The people that are right for you will stick around.
~Many people think that loving you and putting yourself first is selfish. WE cannot give fully to someone else if we cannot give to ourselves first. This quote from Mastin Kipp says it all, “Self-love is not all about “me, me, me”; but it starts with “me” so that we can build a strong “we”.”
~My Mom always said do everything in moderation. I still use that rule today. I think if you want to be lazy for an afternoon – do it. If you feel like watching that crazy reality show – go for it. If you want a cookie – have one. But don’t waste your entire week. Don’t watch hours of TV every day. And don’t eat the whole batch of cookies. Don’t deprive yourself from the things that you enjoy just do it all in moderation.
~Slow down. Life is most enjoyed when we can stop and savour it at a leisurely pace.
~Your past is not your future. You cannot change your past so focus on the present. We all do stupid things at one time or another. What is important is that we learn from it and move on.
~We all are so different in personality. I think it is important to learn about yourself so that you know why you are the way you are. Learn about what things make you happy, make you feel better, and fill your ‘love tank’. Once you learn these things you are better prepared to face the world. I sometimes literally want to hide away from the world – I enjoy social situations in moderation and I am very shy around people that I don’t know well.
~Weird is the new cool. It is better to be different and happy than to conform to society’s norm and be bored and uncomfortable.
~Love life’s simple pleasures. Is it nature you connect to? Music? A good book? Do whatever brings you clarity and joy!
~When you are tired it is your body’s way of saying it is time to rest and take a break. The world won’t tumble down around you if you commit to less and take a day for you. Swallow your pride and repeat after me, “I cannot do it ALL.”
Health & Nutrition
~I challenge myself every week. I like to push my body and see what I can do. It is the best natural high ever.
~Slow and steady wins the race. There are very few weeks that I do not work out at all (I can count them on one hand). I take a break only when my body is hurting and needs some recovery time. I workout at least twice per week, every week. If I were to try and go hard working out every single day I know that I would not stick to it and be disappointed in myself.
~I am addicted to events. It all started with the Walk to End Breast Cancer in 2006 and since then I have participated in The Underwear Affair, the MS Bike Tour, the Relay For Life, 3 Mud Runs, a Colour Run, Zombie Run and have even created an event with my best bud. These events keep me training all the time.
~Eating healthy is important. Meal planning has saved my ass many times even if I plan it the night before. I do not always eat what I am ‘supposed to’ and I don’t care. I make a point to intentionally enjoy whatever I eat no matter what the nutritional value is. I hate it when people eat something and then say I shouldn’t have eaten that. What good does that do? They obviously wanted it in the first place.
~I will never give up cheese, chips or bacon. That is all.
~I can honestly say that I have never, ever been on a diet. I don’t believe in any of them. Making proper food choices and educating yourself is one of the best things that you can do. Proper nourishment can reverse the effects of disease, decrease body fat, improve your mood, keep you energized, and leave you feeling fulfilled.
~I think that there are pros and cons to all jobs. I am not saying that you have to settle. I just think PERFECT jobs are fictional. We should not hate our jobs but there is a big part of us that chooses how our experience will be. Keep learning and make yourself better through your connections and interactions. You never know who you might inspire.
~If you want to learn something make a mistake. Not on purpose but when we make a mistake it sticks with us, we learn from it and we move on. It betters us as people.
There are certainly things that I want to work on. I want to specifically work on forgiveness and giving my children more undivided attention. There is ALWAYS room for improvement. Just goes to show how much we grow and change and even mature. (Yes even me!) I really enjoyed making this list and finding some wonderful quotes and pictures to share. (kinda a nerdy passion of mine!)
Thanks for joining me!