I love being outside. I especially love to be barefoot in the grass. I think that’s why I love summer so much. I can feel the grass and the earth beneath my toes.
Being in nature heals. It allows me to breathe. It allows me to be bigger than me. I am a part of something.
I spent a good part of this past weekend outside. I harvested nanking cherries that I picked while barefoot. I gathered raspberries in short sleeves and allowed the trees and bushes to embrace me. I floated down the river where I grew up and let it wash away all my cares. I reveled in the quiet as the sky and trees drifted past me. I feel uplifted and grounded at the same time.
Outside is where the action is. It’s where peace can be found. Outside you can breathe. It’s where you can feel part of something bigger than all the crap we all worry about all the time. Outside is where real life happens. The rest? Well, it can all wait. Just get outside.
Are the kids (and you!) running out of things to do outside? Can’t think of anything? Krystal and I wrote our ideas down in this comprehensive Simplify: Summer ebook. Find out more here: Simplify Summer
It has been an interesting year for the Simple Life Gals to say the least! Over the past year we have really changed our focus from wanting to do everything to REALLY simplifying our business (imagine that we are taking our own advice!) Simple Life Celebrations started out over two years ago as one of those “shower” ideas. I think us moms have these shower ideas because it’s one of the only peaceful and quiet times that we have in our day. So… Shawna had this idea that we should start a business and immediately we started spewing all of these ideas of what our business could entail. We could do party planning, concierge, organizing and more! After having a taste of all of these things and putting in many, many hours of work we decided that not all of these things were our passion. Once we got talking, we realized that helping people organize and live simpler lives was what we really wanted to pursue. A huge weight was lifted off of our shoulders to have this clarity of our business.
So for the past year we have been organizing offices, basements, storage areas, and even a barn! It has been fantastic and inspiring to see our clients carry on organizing other areas of their homes/lives even after we were gone. (Not only do we enjoy seeing people make the most of their spaces but we like to coach them on how to keep it organized without being overwhelmed.)
It was last November when we went on a weekend retreat. We basically drove 10 hours one way to the middle of nowhere to plan our year and set some goals. On the long drive there we decided that we were going to host a week long Summit called the Celebrate Life Summit. It consisted of 9 local events as well as 15 interviews with many of our favourite online bloggers. It was an amazing experience! We really wanted people to know what resources were available locally as well as globally for simpler, healthier living. Our themes included fitness, nutrition, simple living, love
and relationships, finding your inner goddess, work/finance, and celebrating our world. All of these topics are special to us; we continually strive to better ourselves. It was a great learning experience for us as well as many of the participants.
This year we have also collaborated with Tony DiLorenzo and Dustin Riechmann to create our Simply Sexy Date Night Package which is full of resources to get and keep that fire burning! Seriously, it is packed full of new and exciting date night ideas, great relationship eBooks, and our sexy date night challenge. We know it is not easy to balance a busy schedule and we do not want to let the important things like relationships go to the wayside.
This year we also challenged ourselves with the Simple Spring Challenge. It was a challenge to us and to our readers. Basically, we wanted to rid our lives of physical, mental, procrastination, technological clutter, unhealthy habits, negative feelings and anything else that was holding us back and preventing us from having healthier, happier lives. We kept track of everything that we were able to ‘let go’ of. It was a nice cleanse for the body and soul! A healthy mind and a healthy body go hand in hand.
A couple of other public events that we attended was the After Dark Ladies Night @ReFind where we demonstrated how you can repurpose everyday household items to make lovely storage for your jewelry . We had a blast with the ladies! We shared tons of ideas on how to effectively store your accessories without having to spend a ton of mullah.
We have also attended a couple of speaking events and talked with groups of lovely ladies that were wanting to learn more about how to let go of items. We also shared the reasons of why we hang on to things.
Our latest adventure (or should I say the techie, Shawna’s) was to build us a whole entirely new website. Wowsers, what a learning curve to start all over with a different site. We are so over the moon excited to share it with the world as we really feel like this is a much better reflection of us and our business! (We hope you like it too and would love to have some feedback). It is simple, informative and has our latest products all RIGHT HERE.
And… in our spare time <wink wink> we have just finished our 58 page eBook called Simplify Summer. It is absolutely packed with ideas on how to make the most of your summer. It includes a meal plan (not using the oven at all), staycation ideas for you and the family, checklists for getting away, fun sheets and much more! There should not be anyone ‘bored’ in your house this summer!
We look forward to more SLC ideas for the second half of our year including partnering with Health Street for an evening to give you ideas on how to organize your pantry/kitchen and how to store your healthy foods. We also plan on bringing you more tips and tricks to aid you in living a simpler, more meaningful life. We believe that it is time for people all around the world to ditch the clutter and the guilt and start simplifying their lives!
“Simplifying is about gaining control of your life and your possessions, creating more time to do the things you want to and to spend time with the people you love.”
It’s happened to all of us. Everything is going merrily along, progress is happening on your project. Suddenly…from out of nowhere….
the dog barfs on the carpet
you can’t figure out the code for a simple change on your website
your 11 year old wants to tell you about his day.
you’ve just been presented with yet another field trip form with 2 pages of info to fill out and you can’t find the *$#(% cheque book
your mother calls
you have to pee!
Interruptions are inevitable. Sometimes, I can get really annoyed and ticked off when they happen; especially if I’m “in the flow”. However, the irritated feeling ends up hurting continued productivity (because I get focused on the negative when I do get back to it) and at worst, your annoyed attitude can hurt feelings of those you love. What do I do instead? I have a few remedies I’d like to share:
Take a deep breath and focus on the moment. This is especially effective when dealing with kids or spouse. It alleviates the annoyed attitude
Laugh at the interruption. It’s not the end of the world. It’s only a carpet.
Enjoy the break! Sometimes we get too wrapped up!
Have a cup of tea/coffee and step outside for a moment. That always clears my head.
What are your tips for dealing with a road block? Let us know in the comments!
As I cleaned house today (I don’t normally clean house on Saturdays, I usually do a little bit here and there throughout the week), I thought about how I used to feel about housework.
I hated it. Despised it. I could never do it right. It was never good enough. So…I’d leave it…for days…for weeks. And then the guilt would take over. I’d scream at everyone because they’d never pitch in. I’d resent and rant and rave as I’d furiously “catch up” for hours. Then I’d scream some more when someone would spill something or make a mess. I was miserable. Everyone tiptoed around me. And then the cycle would begin again.
My mother is awesome. She taught us how to work hard and how do be responsible. We were taught to pitch in and do our share of the workload. We all knew how to take care of a home, thanks to her. And I tried. I did. But there were so many other things I’d rather do. I was filled with hatred for cleaning because it took me away from what I really loved to do. I was only doing it because it was expected and because I felt guilty. The worst part – I felt that if it wasn’t perfect, then there was no point to doing it at all. So it got worse and worse. I hated myself for “being a crappy homemaker”. I told myself that all the time.
I was doing it in case someone came over – for show. If I had a messy house they wouldn’t like me. I would find myself thinking that if my mom saw my house when it was messy, I would feel like I’d let her down. I wanted it to look like everyone else’s. But I just couldn’t spend the time to make it that way. We had so much stuff that it would take me so much time just to put stuff away before I even began to clean. By then it would get so dirty that it was extra hard to clean it.
The clutter took over, so much stuff without a place. I would start doing something and then find myself fluttering around doing a million different things and never finishing anything. I’d spend all day “doing”, but never actually accomplishing.
I hated myself. I hated housework. I even hated being a mom because I felt like I was such a failure at it. I had to do something. I bought books on taking care of my home that I’d start to read and never finish because I was just so overwhelmed. It consumed me. I’d listen to advice, I’d feel guilty. Over and over, the sense of helplessness would continue. I’d be happy to go to work just because it meant I could get away from it.
Slowly, as the years passed, I have learned to accept myself for who I am. The biggest thing – that I’m not perfect and most of all; no one else is either. I stopped comparing myself to everyone else. I became my own “standard”. My best friend was instrumental in this. She is amazing; a strong, beautiful woman who is so organized and together. Yet she has her own things that she has to deal with too. We all do. We have helped each other understand this. We have helped each other to let go of Perfectionism, to let go of a lot of things and just BE.
She helped me by coming over here and not judging me – EVER. She comes here because she likes spending time with me. It doesn’t matter what my house looks like. She has helped me learn to focus and find what works for me. I stopped yelling at my family about the house and started setting the example. I started clearing the clutter because it meant more time doing the things I love and being with my family & friends instead of wasting so much time moving, cleaning, and getting rid of it.
Now, I actually enjoy cleaning – I am doing it when I want to do it (not because someone’s coming over or because I feel guilty.) I am doing it because I enjoy the result and I feel like I’m lovingly taking care of my family. I ask for help when I need it – with courtesy and respect, and, amazingly, I usually get the help I need; sometimes even without asking.
Sure, there are days where I slip back into those old feelings, especially when I feel overwhelmed and tired. Days when I just want to hide from everything and everyone. But, those days are fewer and it takes a lot less time to climb back out of my cave.
Krystal and I have learned so much over the years about clearing the clutter and enjoying life. We get excited about helping other people get away from trying to be perfect and just being themselves. We don’t want people to hire us because they need “fixing”. We don’t want people to feel ashamed or controlled by their clutter.
There’s nothing wrong with you. We want to help you learn to live, really live. We want to teach you that you don’t need to be like everyone else. We’ll help you discover what works for you and your family so that you don’t have to stand there screaming at everyone each time you decide to “fix” the mess. We want to help you learn to look at your stuff in a new way. That taking care of your homes doesn’t have to be this horrible chore you hate. Your home is your sanctuary from this crazy world. We truly want to help you make it that way.
I love the idea of minimalism. I follow many minimalist blogs (which sounds weird since the word “many” and “minimalist” don’t seem to go together!) Really though, I am inspired by people like Tammy Strobel at Rowdy Kittens and Faith Janes at Minimalist at Home because they remind me that it’s all just stuff and that it really is possible to just let go.
I am just tired of the whole game of thinking I need stuff that the next guy has. I used to buy my kids stuff that “I’ll bet they’ll like that” and then see it sitting there untouched. I am tired of comparing what we have to others and living from paycheck to paycheck because we haven’t thought about our purchases. There are things in my house that I love, but never see because I haven’t gotten around to putting them out (for example, photos that I want to make into collages because I love seeing my family and friends in photos). There are things in my house that I’m not even sure why I have them there.
The toughest part is going to be letting things go that someone gave me. I’ve gotten better at that over the years. I remind myself that giving it to someone new that will love it is important too. I have also asked people to give me less things; to spend time not money.
I don’t spend a lot of time cleaning my house. I try to be sure to rarely clean on weekends because those should be days spent with my family and renewing my spirit. It is annoying and stressful on everyone to have to pick up a ton of stuff before we even begin cleaning. Having less clutter will mean quicker cleanup and more fun! The kids have been learning that over the past year, so they are getting on board with this idea too!
The time I have spent on vacation in our little condos has me completely addicted to the simple furnishings, kitchen and bath. They are an oasis because the only stuff in the condo are the basics. I love, LOVE it! We do just fine with the basics, and that’s what I want in my home. It’s amazing when we’re on vacation: we spend a ton of time together because we’re not distracted by all the stuff, cleaning the stuff, fixing the stuff etc. That’s what I want in our home: a peaceful oasis. I think the minimalist project is the way to do it.
Krystal’s Thoughts and Reasons
For a while now I have been feeling a need to get rid of stuff. My mind is cluttered and as I look around I see things that we really don’t need; things that we don’t love. So why is it in my house? I have those fleeting thoughts and slight panic attacks, “What if I need it one day?” and “This belonged to someone special that I care about; I couldn’t possible let it go?!”
I know now that letting go of some items that I don’t really want/need; the ones that don’t give me happiness isn’t a bad thing. It may be smart donating, selling, or giving them away to someone that needs them. Ridding myself of these ‘things’ does not change my feelings about the person(s) that gave them to me.
I really feel that this process will help to clear my mind if I can get rid of the excess. Now I am not going extreme here. I will not be able to pack up and move in a moments notice or anything. I am not going to keep only three sets of clothing and get rid of all technology (that would never happen in my house!)Here are my reasons for striving towards a more minimalist home:
relaxation: I want to live and breathe easy knowing that I have less clutter in my life
relationships: less stuff allows for more time with our family and friends
time: more time to do the things that I enjoy
less worrying = more positivity
cleaner: less stuff to clean equals one happy mom!
eye appeal: sometimes when we have tons of stuff, we do not see the items that we truly love
I leave you with some thoughts from Everyday Minimalist:
A Minimalist’s Train of Thought
Less money spent means more money saved
More money saved means the longer you can live in financial peace and security
Financial peace and security comes from owning less
Less stuff owned means less to carry around, move or have to travel with
Less responsibility for your stuff also means less maintenance and more time
The more time you have, the more relaxed you will feel
The more relaxed you are, the less you will care about stuff
If you care less about stuff, it means you’ll care less about image
If you care less about image, you will care more about experiences and memories
If you care more about experiences and memories, you will be happier with less
If you are happier with less, you’ll never want or need for more
The less you want or need for more, the more you will feel free
– The Everyday Minimalist
We encourage YOU to join us in this journey; we are really excited about this! We have gone through one room at a time; sometimes even in bite size pieces as we have time. It’s an ongoing process.
“If you want to become full, let yourself be empty.” ~Tao Te Ching
If you are finding any of this process overwhelming we can help! With our organizing experience we can make a plan with you to get the home that you yearn for!